In the quest for settledness, we can end up creating a mediocre life. Being free to ask yourself what you are “putting up with” can send your life into the chaos of change. But never asking will leave you with a draining sense of being stuck.
As this year ends and we are blessed with a fresh one, it is the perfect time to accept the challenge to admit what needs to change and embark on the path that will make it happen.
Leadership Skill: The Life Wheel
Draw a big circle and divide it into eight sections. Label each of the pieces: Career, Health, Money, Friends, Family, Personal Growth, Fun and Recreation, and Physical Environment.
Read each description below, and capture how satisfied you are by choosing a number between 0 and 10, and putting it in its section on the Life Wheel.
- Career: How satisfied are you with how your career is going? You may be a CEO and very dissatisfied, or a stay-at-home mom and very satisfied, or retired and satisfied or dissatisfied.
- Health: How satisfied are you with your sleep, diet, exercise, and healthcare?
- Money: How satisfied are you with your financial situation? Resist the urge to assume that more money is always better. Consider your immediate and future needs, your debts, and
- Friends: How satisfied are you with your relationship with your friends? You are not rating your friends. You are considering how satisfied you are, in general, with connection in your life.
- Family: How satisfied are you with your relationship with your family. Families are complicated. You may want to divide this section into two, giving your spouse or parents or siblings a number. Then giving your immediate or extended family another number. And remember, you are not rating them, but considering how satisfied you are with your relationship with them.
- Personal growth: How satisfied are you with how you are growing? Humans were designed to grow. Are you growing at a rate that meets that need?
- Fun and recreation: How satisfied are you with what you are doing for fun and recreation? Are you doing enough?
- Physical environment: How satisfied are you with the stuff around you? Where you live, what you wear, what you drive?
- Spiritual life: How satisfied are you with your spiritual life? It does not have its own Life Wheel section, because many consider it to have impact on every aspect of their lives. Note your satisfaction number.
Start with one area on the Wheel where you long to have change and methodically ask and answer each of the following questions in this order:
- What would it look like if that area of my life were a 10? Imagine it.
- What would it feel like? Feel it.
- What are the steps to get from where I am to a 10? Create a strategy to follow.
- What step am I willing to take this week? Commit to it.
- When am I going to do it? Put it on the calendar.
- Who am I going to tell? Sharing your goals is crucial to your success.
Taking the Challenge
Only you know what truly matters to you, and only you know what you are tolerating. My challenge to you is to patiently, but completely, explore each of the areas of your Life Wheel. Map the changes that you need to create a life that you love living, and make it happen.
- Mary Beth King