Fear often interferes with our ability to live more fulfilling lives. Fear is the critical voice in our head, telling us we’ll never succeed. When we let fear rule our lives, we miss out on opportunities and situations that could help us reach our goals. Fear comes in different guises and forms – procrastination for example. Here are ten ways to reduce and break through fear.
1. Write down your fears and how they affect your life.
2. Are there things you’re holding back on…
…because you’re frightened that you are not good enough or of making changes generally. You have a limited time on this earth. Deadlines are called deadlines for a reason!
3. Listen to your self-talk.
Many of us don’t so much talk to ourselves as make statements – i.e. I’ll never get that job – this cuts your brain dead and gives it nothing to work on. It’s gone on a prolonged holiday!
4. Start asking yourself questions.
For example, ask yourself: how can I make giving this speech an enjoyable experience. Now your brain has something to do! Don’t expect the answer straight away (but be aware of opportunities and situations that provide clues). Get into the habit of asking yourself questions, rather than making blanket (negative) statements.
5. Redefine mistakes and learn from them.
Don’t beat yourself up over mistakes you’ve made in the past and being fearful of starting new relationships, jobs, etc. Call a mistake an opportunity for learning and seek the learning in every mistake.
6. Seek the company of supportive people…
…and reduce contact with those who foster feelings of negativity.
7. Read books about people who have succeeded…
…despite the obstacles and look at the principles and qualities behind what they did, their thinking and attitude. Closer to home – seek out role models who embody what you want to become. Learn from their approach and attitude.
8. Know that whatever quality you like or admire in someone…
…is lying dormant in you – waiting to be developed. How else would you recognize it? Make a list of the qualities you most admire in someone else and ask yourself how they can be acknowledged and developed in you.
9. Your past doesn’t have to define your future.
Be aware of your past and willing to let go of it. Each day brings a new opportunity to do and think about things differently.
10. List your goals and the actions you need to take…
…to achieve them every day. Every time you do something that brings you a little closer to achieving your goals, you will feel better about yourself and reduce your unnecessary fears.