“I’m trying to strike the word ‘busy’ from my conversations. What are some more positive replacements?”
Being busy does not equal being important. Successful people are not generally the most busy ones. The more successful a person is, the more present he is in a given situation.
Don’t be fooled by busy people. They may well be avoiding something important in their lives and probably can’t see it for what it is.
People with a clear vision and mission do not shirk from responsibility but lead confidently forward. They may “look” busy but they are “on mission.” Busy people can’t say no. Intentional people say “no” to busy things because they are compelled to say “yes” to what matters.
People use their “busy” life to hide from their “purposeful” life.
What I have found, is often times leaders are the most guilty of hiding by keeping busy because they don’t have a clear vision for their own personal life. They would rather get their fingers into everyone’s stuff, declare their direct reports incompetent, and take things back into their control, rather than to fulfill their own responsibilities of leading with purpose. In actuality, leaders are often times scared, insecure, and rudderless.
Leadership is about setting the vision, trusting and supporting the team you have put in place It’s about getting out in front of the company. But how many of us are guilty of letting that weight of responsibility send us running back to hiding from our fears of failure under the guise of “too busy?”
There’s more for you!
Here a few hints to leave busy and head toward intentional
- Be very clear in your language. You are at choice as to whether you are busy or intentional.
- Adjust your schedule. Add white space and margin. This means you must remove things that are not part of your vision.
- Two words… say “no”.
- Be disciplined with your email, phone, etc. to accomplish what matters and remove any noise and distraction you can.
- Know your mission and vision.
- Pay attention to your 5 key accountabilities – the things you should be doing 80% of the time.
When will we stop and take care of ourselves, and thus our responsibilities? When will we stop saying yes to things that allow us to circumvent our responsibilities because we are fearful of failure or rejection? It’s when we choose to live a life of significance instead of avoiding the true life we were meant to live. I have decided not to allow people to call me busy because I’m not. I am living a full, intentional life that is my choice and I am proud of.
Think about it. Do you admire, respect, and want to follow a leader who is running around with their hair on fire all the time? How much better to be aligned with leaders who are confident in who they are, where they are at, and what path they are leading down! Which do you want to be known for? Busy or intentional?